Setting Boundaries & Saying "No"

Last week we were concerned about bills, getting the COVID vaccine, making multiple work deadlines; this week we can be concerned with finding time for ourselves, checking in on our people, finding new ways to build a successful financial future. With the many worries we may have week to week it is imperative we learn how to say "no".

For some, saying "no" can be easy, but for those that struggle or need new ways to approach declining offers, take in these quick tips for saying "no" that will allow you to set boundaries for yourself.

A simple "No"

Don't walk around it, be straightforward. If you are asked for something and you already know in your mind "issa no'' why tiptoe around it and make them wait for the response? Be straightforward with others when you are already aware of where you stand. Don't waste their time and yours trying to avoid them, be honest and move on.

"Maybe in the future, but for now I will have to say no"

We don't want to completely cut ties, but now is just not the time. Let's not over crowd ourselves to a point where we cannot give our full potential to the work in front of us. If it is something you truly want but you are simply too busy, make that known. What is for you, will arise; if the time is not now and it is meant to be a part of your journey another opportunity will present itself. Save their information and get back to them another time.

"That does not align with my ____________ "

Stop saying "yes" to things that do not align with your brand, goals, or the path you have set out for yourself. This can keep you from the true fulfillment you seek and need. I get it, they are family/friends, you want to support them because they have supported you, but ask yourself this: "Would I force them to do something that doesn't line up with their path?" If you have a plan, stick to that and share with them the ways you are willing to help that do not take away from what you are doing for yourself. If they are really your people, they will understand and appreciate your honesty.

Remove the guilt

As humans we don't want to hurt others' feelings. But as we grow and walk in our purpose we must decide to create healthy boundaries that keep us safe. Not just in reference to physical safety but our mental health. "Yes" can feel fine in the moment, but what happens when you fall through, someone is depending on you, or you are simply unavailable? Now you have added guilt, pressure, drama, and stress that could have been avoided with a simple "no".

Setting boundaries to protect your peace doesn't happen overnight- It takes practice. You have to actively work to choose what fulfills you and decline what serves no purpose in your journey. Not everything will be mapped out for us, but we can make decisions towards better impact, productivity, and self care.